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Okay so today I woke up with a migraine. Yes, it put me in a pissy mood. I'm very sensitive to noise, and what does my grandmother do? She blasts the TV. Now, if my family were normal, and I had a bedroom door, this wouldn't be so bad, but they're not, so I don't. AAAARGH!! Then, she bitches at me about not eating. Hel-lo? What did she not get about the migraine making me nauseated? And since when is having a headache for a week normal? My dad just needs to get over himself and realize that more people exist besides my stepmom and my sil and those three precious grandbabies that do no wrong. You can bet if one of them had a migraine, his world would stop.
You would if you had a headache people would understand more. myself get panick attacks and headaches some times.
I have only one question. You're an adult, and whatever reasons you have for still living with your family are your own personal business, but why don't you have a bedroom door? I would go crazy without one.
I think we all have experiences, with family or friends that are difficult. I understand your frustration, and hope you can find some way to either fix the situation or get out of it.
and just lmao at the thought of Chelsea without a bedroom door. :P
I agree with Chelsea on this one. Bedroom doors would come well in handy during times like these. And don't get me wrong on this I know these are your elders and such but where is the respect? Grown folks kill me. They want us young adults to respect them but you don't get any respect in return? I just don't get it. Why would I want to respect someone who doesn't respect me? I'm putting myself in your shoes here, I'm supposed to suffer from migrains due to you blasting TV's and radios but when I blast mine you yell at me to turn it down? Hell-o, fair is fair.
I agree with that. if they want us to respect them, then they should respect us. do on to others. what ever happened to thatgolden rule?
good question
It seems like some times I have so many issues at once, it gives me a migrain. For starters, my little sister constantly wants me to play with her. It seems like we argue allot. She's 8 and I'm 20. Dad gets onto both of us for arguing. The worst part is when my brother or sister look at my computer screen when it's none of their business. I have a lock on my door, but I have to let everyone in anyways? What's the point in having a lock!
It seems like me and my sister get treated unfairly. My sister has all the friends, she gets all the attension, and it seems like she rarely gets in trouble, and as for me, I am grounded for the littlest things! I love my family, but there are issues!
Thank goodness for my screen is off, because I don't want them reading this post!
Oh my God! You're twenty and still getting grounded?
Some times my grandmother comes home from work all pist off about who knows what. Then when I or my uncle say something som times sh gets really pist off! And we live in a onebedroom apartment so trying to get awway from family problems isn't easy!
Yes, I still get grounded. My mom threatened to ground me from the computer just for picking a mosquito bite. Hell lo, mom! My computer is my haven. Also, everyone uses my computer all the time! Come on! It's my computer. My mom won't let me set a password to access my files and programs. Where's the privacy these days! Also, since mom's cell phone is down, she uses mine. Can't I have something that I can keep to myself? I can't talk to my parents about these issues, or it would be worse. As for haylee, my sister, she gets all the attension, and I seem to get put on the back burner.
Blackbird, when you say get out of the situation, what exactly do you mean? Could anyone give me some advice on how to fight this battle?
It also seems like my parents are getting onto me for the slightest mistakes I make. I'm always being scolded for the littlest things, to me anyways. I feel like such a loser. I'm not perfect, but I wish I was. Once in a while, I get the feeling that my family would be better off without me. Have any of you had these feelings?
You're an adult, and your family should treat you as such. If they won't/don't, leave. They cannot make you stay there any longer. You are your own person. That's absolutely rediculous. Don't let it happen, or they're never going to let you be independen. You don't want to be stuck there forever, and it looks like you're starting to settle into that. ugh. Ugh, I hate over-baring parents who think that blindness means incompetence. Of course, blind kids have to proove that that isn't what it means. Seriously, if you don't feel you have the skills to move out on your own, take the inniciative to acquire those skills. If you do feel you have the skills, get out out.
oh my god! if your over 18, why in the hell are you still being grounded? find a way to get out of that house, and take your computer with you, if it's yours. no-one, and I mean no-one tuches my computer without my permition, or without me being with them while they're on it. As for the aridgenal post, you need to get out as well, or, get a bedroom door!
sometimes though people have the right to leave, they stay in situations for different reasons. I definitely am a person who knows about family drama.
I would get out, but I'm going to college, and I'm without a job, so I don't have the money to get out on my own. Until I find a decent job, I'm stuck. Sometimes when I get so agrivated at them, I don't know what to do. If you are upset with your family, what kinds of things do you do to calm yourself down?
And I should also add, my little sister even thinks of me as a child. She doesn't mind me, and do as I tell her. I can't stand that. I just wish she'd grow up. Since She gets the attention and the friends, do you think that people like her better than me? I know you don't know my sister, but what do you think?
Some times my grandmother can really piss me off! The other day she said a bunch of fucking crap about my dad! Then she was fucking yelling at me! Thank God my screen is off right now!
You people should do the right thing. Put the old birds in a nursing home!
About every time I turn around, My mom finds something about me to gripe about. I'm not perfect.
to this download person. your parents ar only treating you as you act. i mean come on now your twenty and according to your board you started, , don't bathe unless told to, don't brush your teeth unless told to, and all this only happening once or twice a weak. That's just freaking nasty! you claim your sister needs to grow up. she's probably acting more mature than you are. The difference being she is still a kid, you are an adult, and that's giving you to much credit!. So if you want to be treated like an adult, then act like one! I'm sure in some instances the parents are to over protective, but in most it's you , as in the child wanting to grow up, need to take the first step, and act like the adult you want to be seen as. There only treating you like you act, in your case a two year old. my five and three year old nieces bathe and brush there teeth way more often than you do, and that's not being told. ! enough of my ranting now.
shea
Uh, two year old? I don't think so. Two year olds don't go to college, and two year olds don't use computers. What are you thinking!
no they go to pre school, and learn the basics such as bathing and brushing teeth. more than i can say for you as a so called college student! and my three year old niece can use the computer. hehehehehe going to college and using the computer don't make you an adult. hehheheheh as i said two year old's brush there teeth and bathe. which is more than i can say for you!
so if you want to be treted like an adult, act like one!
Well, maturity and intelligence are two totally different things. You can go to college, but as mature as a five year old. I'm a total loser.
Another thing that makes me mad is when my little sister is such a tattle tail. If I don't play with her, or we argue about something, She will tel mom and dad. She's not the boss, and that's not her place to do so. She's always bugging me to play with her and I get so sick and tired of playing with her. I wish she'd grow up!
to download87: if you think that just cause you use computers and go to college makes you an adult, your preception's way off. it's downright pathetic that you're still having to be told to keep clean, that's all there is to it!
Ok. I guess growing up isn't quite as good as I thought.
but it has to happen sometime. We all go through it, and that's just part of life. You're not getting any younger, and it's high time you started giving new meaning to the phrase, "grow up." sorry about the bluntness to this post, but that's all there is to it. Your parents are not going to be there to hold your hand forever, you know.
If you would like to live on your own one day, it's time to start taking initiative and doing things for yourself, and not waiting for someone to tell you when to do stuff, especially bathing, or threaten to take your computer away. Sitting around is not going to get you anywhere in life.
thank you, joanne.
You're welcome.
One thing that keeps me from getting along with my little sister is jellacy. I feel so jellous of her because she doesn't get in trouble quite as much as i do, she gets grounded once in a while, Whatever she wants she gets, and everyone thinks she's the sweetest thing. That's why I feel so jellous! She's a little miss perfect, can do no wrong She gets all the attention just because she's the little one. If she wants me to play with her, I have to. It's her way or no way, it seems like. I'm wondering if my parents like her better than me. Any opinions?
no, it's probably that she bathes. they can stand to be around her. Sad, that you are much older and much more smellier! blunt, maybe, but sorry if the truth hurts, then do something about it! Your way to old to be getting grounded, or being told to play with your little sister or your in trouble! but, as i said before, maybe your parents are treating your as you act. like a spoiled two year old!
I know I don't bathe regularly, but I can't stand to be jellous of my sister. She is so perfect.
DL87, aren't you a bit too old to be jealous of a sister who is still a child?! LOL This is too unbelievable to take seriously.
If you don't want to deal with your family, find a couple of friends who will live with you, and share an apartment.
Juniper, if you're reading still, have you seen a doctor about your migraines? No one should have to live with that agony! GNC's Migraplex has worked for me in the past, if you want to try something before you look into prescription meds.
Wow.
This board is too funny!
I'm... astounded!
I mean, I know that there are some blind people who haven't been told about the resources out there, and have been oversheltered, and so need help taking the first steps, and i'm sure there are those of us who are out on our own who are more than willing to offer some pointers in the right direction.
But this...
this is just...
Just plain... laziness or... indifference.
Who would just... not care if they didn't take a bath!
Oh goddess preserve me!
This is rediculous.
and that's the only thing that I can think of, accept insults that I refuse to post.
So I'm going to end this now!
Amber who can't believe what she's just read.
I'd live with friends if I could ever find friends to live with. I can't live alone right now do to no job and still going to college. I think having a job, going to college, and living alone is too stressful.
You know what? Noone ever said it was going to be easy. That's part of life, growing up, and entering the adult world.
Do to life getting harder and entering the adult world, that's why I want to end it. A little off topic, but true.
Are you receiving any therapy for your depression? There are people who can help you. Killing yourself wouldn't solve anything. You may think your parents don't care about you, and they'd be better off without you, but think of the pain you would put them in after you had gone through with it.
Ok, I see that.
So you want to end your life? then why aren't you dead? If you really wanted to end your life, you would have done it by now wouldn't you? It's not hard to run into a road when cars are driving on it. It's not hard to stab yourself, It's not hard to burn yourself to death, It's not hard to hang yourself, if you're so desperate to end your life. Of course, if upon reading this, you don't immediately commit suicide, the post in which you said you wanted to end your life should be interpreted as a blatant attention-seeking lie right?
Katie: Are you my long-lost emotional twin? You're saying many of the same things as I've found myself thinking.
Joanne, Shea, et al. I don't think you're helping this situation by giving it the hard edge of tough love. People who are depressed will not be changed by others saying, well, that's life, so deal with it! Part of their depression is caused by their inability to do precisely that. Instead of telling them to grow a thicker skin and simply grow up, take responsibility for themselves and their actions, and start being the adult in the situation, you need to emotionally adjust to the fact that being gentle could very well be the solution here. Sympathy goes an extremely long way in bringing difficult people around to your way of thinking. Mix it with a little reality, and you might start to notice a difference in thought or behavior. But pouring acid on a fire because water isn't available at the moment and acid is clear won't alter a thing.
DL87, as disappointing as this fact is, don't tell these boards anything about your wellbeing. It's sad that a few will just ridicule you cos they need to feel better within themselves.
it sounds like you need to take action on your depression. Go and seek counselling. Talk to close friends, not these boards full of strangers (a few idiots - who read this board).
good luck!
Actually, it is difficult to stab yourself, so that's not a good way... but I'm not going to suggest one. LOL
I think the reason folks are seemingly being harsh here is that DL's first posts sounded much les serious than the most recent one, (post 37,) and so the natural inclination is to laugh rather than offer genuine sympathy. I mean, it was all about whining about parents favoring a younger sister, for heaven's sake!
Dude. It doesn't, and shouldn't matter. She still has a valid complaint. It may not be life-threatening, but it should still be treated with the same attention and care as her more recent posts.
It's hard to care, when she comes on zone by phone laughing about it. So if she took it more serious than maybe we would! She seems to think it's funny and make jokes about it. So why can't we? you guys need to lighten up a bit. It would be different if we were hurting her feelings and continued to do so!
So if she has issues with it. let her say it. instead of you making a huge issue out of nothing!
As i said before. she has came to me and said she don't think i'm nasty to her , so why should some of you make such a huge deal about it. come on now. lighten up!
And on a different note. . you guys are running with this depression thing way to easy. She said she has never cared about taking care of herself. she don't see the need to bathe and brush her teeth more than once a weak. This isn't something that she has just started. she has done this from the beginning. She's not blaming this on depression, sh just said she don't feel the need!
Shea
Is it really so easy to stab yourself? The pain you inflict on yourself may be offputting, but if other people can stab people, it can't be too difficult to simply stick the knife into the body.
To the suicidal, Of course, if the suicide attempt which will probably never happen is to be successful, it's best that you stab yourself in the correct place.
Good Idea senior. I agree with your idea here.
One thing about my family that I can't stand is they want to know who I'm on the phone to. They ask me who it was and what they want. Come on! It's none of their business! I get in trouble when I ask them that.
Dude. It is completely their business. They pay for the phone... they have a right to know who is using it, where, when, and what is being said if they wish. Don't like it? Go out and buy your own bloody phone and pay for its upkeep yourself, or simply adjust your thinking to these hard facts. *sarcasm.* Very simply put, it is not all. about. you.
To make myself clear, it's my cell phone, and I pay for the thing and the minutes, so it's none of their business!
Ah, but it is a family plan, so it is still their business. You may pay for your share of the minutes, etc. but the truth is that the bill comes to their house, and if you don't want to be harrassed monthly about whom the hell you're calling (a policy I actually agree with, given circumstances on the internet), then go out and switch your phone number, and the plan you use. Have the bill directly deducted from a bank account in an electronic funds transfer. No actual bill will be sent to your house, so no more questions will be asked of you. If that's too difficult, thowever, accustom yourself to the idea that your parents can still see everything you do with that phone, and because they own the plan (being heads of the household), they still have all the lattitude in the world to know exactly how their propperty is being handled, or whether it's being abused. As for the enormous phone bills, restrict yourself to Emailing your friends if you're able.
Yeh, but they can read my email. Damn! I have nothing in that house I
can call my own. I have to share everything.
They can't come on here without your ID or password.
That's wrong. They know about the zone, and they know my id. They were reading my computer screen. They asked me questions about it, and they wanted my user name. They could even possibly sign up. they even know I use msn messenger. I just can't keep things privatly mine.
One thing I can't stand is that my parents make up these rules such as don't talk with a mouth full of food, and don't but into someone elses conversation. Then, when I turn around they are doing the thing they told us not to do. Why make rules that you're not going to follow yourself. That's so unfair and wrong. I ask them why they are doing this, but they say because they are the parents. I sense some discrimination here. I think that us children are discriminated because we don't get treated like the parents. I strongly believe that we should be treated as equals, and that applys in a family situation. I know that being the child and being the adult has its ups and downs, but I'm treated like both. This means that I have fewer privilages than my parents and the same rules that my sister has, but I have more responsibilities. I really don't approve of that. If Iam given the responsibilities of an adult, then I should have the same privilages. I'm just stuck in the middle. That's my side of the debate. What are your opinions.
Katie, you can always change your user name here and/or password. I don't know if you're using an e-mail client or not, but if you aren't consider going to web-based e-mail, and periodcally changing passwords. This way, your e-mails won't be downloaded to the computer. Concerning the way your family treats you, perhaps you should consider some of their criticisms such as bathing, talking with your mouthful, etc as societal norms, and not just arbitrary parental rules. Observe people around you in college, and see how they act in terms of behavior.
Lou
If I change my email password, it will interfeer with my internet connection. My mom has a computer as well that she uses rarely, and she needs the password to connect both computers. So, that means that they can read my email, even if it's web based.
Not if you change it on the website itself, and not using the Internet. You can always remove your e-mail account from your e-mail client. If you want further info on this, send me a private message, and maybe I can help you.
The email password is the same password used for the internet. It's all one password.
I have hotmail now, so noone can check that hotmail. My parents don't know that I have it.
Well, one thing that I hate is that my mom and sister use the computer a lot. Also, I can't talk on the phone till weekends. I'm thinking that my family are slowly pulling me away from the friends I have. I've seen tv shows of young girls going and hanging with friends on a daily basis. The computer and phone are my equivalent to that.
Wow, I just have to say, I am so fortunit to have my own life. I used to be stuck living with my parents at twenty, but I moved out on my own and am now extremely successful. I think you should attend some kind of independent living school where you can learn how to take care of yourself. For goodness sake! You're twenty and still calling yourself a child? Wow, there's something very wrong with that! And being grounded at 20? What the freak! I hardly even talk to my parents anymore. We are 12 hours away by plane! My current situation right now is a blessing. I am a bagpiper and bugle corps member by career. I live in band housing as of right now until I can get my own apartment (I just moved to this state recently), which is a host family. They treat me like an adult though. I am 21. And I take regular baths, haha, because that's important. I don't think you should go off and kill yourself though. Just tell your family you want to go to an independent living school. I'm not sure what state you're in, but you really need to get a vocrehab counselour and discuss these issues with them. I hope everything works out for you.
Good for you!
I already went to an independent living school, but the point I'm trying to get at is that I don't have the money to live on my own. I don't have the time to go to college and have a full time job, and take care of a household.
So in the mean time, you just sit around and act like a kid. And wine?
I don't have a lot to do besides school and helping out in the house.
Hmmm, thats od.
I'm still stuck living with my mum at home (that is, when I'm not here at RNC on a Skills for the Working Office course) but I'm not exactly 'stuck' in the house with her all the time. She'll ask me what I want to do, either when she has a day off or at the weekend, and we just give each other our own space when we need it, we both have our own laptops, mobiles, landlines Etc plus a PC in our back room/office, so using the computer's hardly ever been a problem since we installed a speedtouch connection then a wireless connection so two of us could go online simultaneously so no worries if mum wanted to check her Emails. I'd just come off the PC for five minutes when we didn't have the Live box and I'd let her do that. I'm at College now, so I can get a job and hopefully one day, earn enough money to move out permanently and probably rent my own flat or small house, then upsize if I've earned enough money to do so. If anybody's family sucks, I have this to say to them. It was all, your own look-out if you can't even be bothered to leave the house with the acception of meetings and other appointments. You'll be stuck with them for life, won't you? where as I, age nearly 24, am mending my ways, slowly coming out of a pretty big depression I found myself in three years ago and I'm now sitting at my laptop in my hall of residence at Royal National College Hereford, where I'm on this SWO course, posting in this topic. I look on the positive side when I'm in an absolutely foul mood with mum, when I think my own family really sucks and I just wish they'd all get squished by a 1000-tonne bulldozer or I'm wishing I could just burn 'em all up with a flick of a magic wand, mum recognises that I'm so over boiling point, recognises the danger signs, respects my space and usually stays well away if it's her I'm mental with, so that's that and not normally any harm done, lollol. Either just create your own space away from your family, or save up, buy your own contract mobile phone or laptop. Mind you, you'll need to save up for at least a year for the laptop, but the phone's free.
Jen.
I'm prowd of you. lol!
Ok I know i haven't posted to this board in a while so here goes. My grandmother either a doesn't want me going to my church or b she doesn't support my religous beliefs! I've asked her more than once if she wouldn't mind taking me and just dropping me off! Doesn't she realize that I can get help once I'm there? And her exscuses are always along the lines of i have so much work to do and crap llike that! I mean this really can piss me off some times! Another reason why I think she doesn't want me going isbecause my church is three hours and plus it starts at one in the afternoon! I could understand if I was working but I'm not so what's the big deal! Ok enough of my rantings.
Well, here's a good plan. You can take a taxi to church, if it's not far away. O, you could use that star service that you told me about, and take that to church.
thanks for the advice. The way things look right now a taxi is my only hope until I can set up a car pool. I can't use my para transit service because it won't go there.
You're welcome. I wish you good luck setting up car pull.
One thing that makes me so stinkin mad is when my dad just gripes at me for being on the computer as much as I am. Since I can't call anyone on weekdays, and dad doesn't want me on the computer, congratulations dad! You just destroyed my social life, what little one I have.
Um. News flash, sweetie. There is life outside your apartment. Try walking a few steps beyond the confines of your room, your front door... You will notice that there are other creatures like you out there. We call them, humans, and many of them could become your friends, should you choose to engage them in conversation. This would, of course, be greatly assisted were you to bathe before setting foot on the sidewalk.
You sure told her! Now lets see if she took it in.
You need to look into the resources that could help you live independantly. Me for example, I had no money just getting out of school and no job so I took it upon myself to contact services and now I'm on my own and living successfully!
Troy
If you want to get out, get the hell out of college. Get a job, work, live, and save up money. When you ghet settled in, go back to college. And, it's just like Julia said. Social life isn't just about a computer.
Problem with that advice is, sometimes a job just isn't that easy to find. I know people who have been looking for jobs literally for years, with no success. It can be discouraging, to say the least.
I agree, KL, but you at least have to try, otherise there is no sense in complaining.
I agree that you don't gain anything by not trying, but in reality the best way to save money in order to live on your own, unless you have access to money, is to get a job first, then move out on your own. I was somewhat lucky in that I landed one of the first jobs I ever applied for after college, but that's a double-edged sword, as I have stuck there for a very long time, and I can't seem to get hired on anywhere else.
I agree. You should work on saving money, working, then getting out. However, she has to make the step and go out and at least look for a job.
Again, to be fair, she need not go out of her house to look for a job at first. She needs to compile a resume before she can even think of pounding the pavement, and with her current position, methinks she'll not have much to put on paper. I could be very wrong, but if she has always refused to regularly bathe and keep her teeth clean, who would rationally hire her? Pity only extends so far, and I'm sure the number of complaints and dirty looks her employer is given will outweigh her productivity in whatever job she takes.
I agree Cousin. I am just trying to get her moved out of her house instead of sitting there complaining that she just sits on her ass and does nothing.
Well, I'm going to college now, and I contact visual services to provide what I need. Correction, Julia, I do have a resume, I went to a highly advanced school, I have a job history, I'm getting a degree, which will help, I have a lot of honors and awards. Isn't that what is needed in a resume? Also, you are totally mistaken when you say I sit around all day. You're wrong! I go to school two days a week, I'm actively involved in my studies, I do homework, I take tests, is there anything else I should be doing? I'm excelling, so what's the big deal. I have responsibilities such as scheduling transportation, I am helping around the house at least every day, what more should I do. I just don't know how to get my point across that the computer and phonecalls are my social life, and if he doesn't like it,then tough!
2Days a weekk. Wow thats sure is alot! Lol.
I love sarcasm. lol two days a week? and what, may i ask, does "actively participating in my studies," mean? responsibilities is plural, and you only gave us one, that of arranging transportation. please elaborate.
What I mean is studying for tests and doing homework. Other responsibilities include keeping my room clean, doing the homework, calling my disability office to notify them of upcoming tests so they can provide a reader. I scheduled meetings with my visual services councelor and disability councelor at the school about my accomidations, and things that I need. I'm getting a new computer, so I call visual services and keep on top of what they're doing to provide the computer.
Katie, sweetheart. These are not huge responsibilities. They're all part and parcel of going to college as a blind woman. If you had the responsibility of cooking for your entire family two or three times a week, babysitting, I.E. actually looking after and interacting with your sister just as often, rather than shunning her and telling her to stay out of your way and get lost, accompanying your mother to her doctor's appointments, grocery shopping with your family every week, so-on and so-forth, those might qualify as responsibilities. But studying for tests? Calling your disabilities office so they provide whatever accomodations you need? Not so much.
As for your job history, what, pray tell, does it constitute? Have you ever had a steady, paid position? Also, awards and honors only make up about one fifth of your resume's total content. That's not even assuming that you were able to keep yourself clean enough to remain hired for more than a week and a half.
Julia, what a great post. I was getting ready to tell this attentionseeking idiot that. I can't believe this. You state that you help out at least everyday in the house. With what? You help keep your room clean? How can you keep a room clean if you're not clean? And, by the way, I was expected to keep my room clean since time began for me. A highly advanced school? Well, being booksmart and possessing common sense are two different things.
I'd hate to be that interviewer
me to. that's just not right.
you need serious councelling.
Wake up and smell the coffee. Face the facts and take the advice that's been dispensed in most of the replies to your initial post. Stop looking for excuses and adapt, otherwise, my dear, you are going to be screwed for life.
Julia, I'm fucking pissed at u for making me read this. Damn u, u evil friend of mine. Lol. Jk jk. Family sucks? How again did we get to this subject again? Well, my dad n I are at therapy and I don't know if anything has changed, but I must wait it out, for change takes time.
College responsibilities, that's a start, isn't it? The jobs I had were an internship at an airforce base, two summer jobs with payment. It's a start, and I've never had problems at those jobs. Never been fired, my employers were pleased with me, but I started working at 18.
Those aren't responsibilities, those are duties of attending college.
How often were you required to be at these jobs? And how much were you hourly paid? If your assertions are true, then I have to go back to my original thought: you are indeed, severely depressed. And this depression is somewhat recent.
These jobs were in the summer, I went five days a week, from 8 to 3. At the end of summer, I got a pay check of 600 dollars for both of those jobs. I loved my previous jobs enough that I want a job, at least part time.
And, when you wenty to those jobs, did you bathe?
Sounds like coddling jobs. Been in a few myself when I was 14 and 15. Give the disabled people some responcibility, and we can use them as poster child. Atleast it's something for the resume.
Jesus. 600 dollars for eight weeks? WTF? That's not even minimum wage level earnings, Katie. What exactly did these jobs involve?
It was probably receptionary work.
Let's see, $600 for eight weeks, that's roughly $300 a month. That's something, a very little something. Can't think of what that would compute to in hourly, but it would probably be worthy of a Sixty Minutes piece. <G>
Yes, that's not worth a thing. About 75 dollars a week.
Well, I kep my same bathing routine, and my employers didn't make any comments. For my jobs, I recorded books on tape, proofread braille documents, brailled documents, and labeled textbooks in braille. The reason I made so little is because it was a summer work program for the blind that visual services was offering. I only had two jobs, because I haven't been out of highschool very long, and had about five hours of homework a night, and I didn't have time for a job during the year. I did go to a technical school and got certified in medical administrative work.
Katie, I'm thinking that your employer might have accepted your bathing habbits, thinking that many people who are blind live the same way. Even if they didn't, they probably didn't know how to address the isue with you.
Lou
also, you'll get that everywhere you go. People will talk to you like nothing's wrong but when you're not around, they'll start talking.
Kerby
Well that's not right. People shouldn't talk about someone behind there back.
It's not right but people do it anyways.
That's true. The good thing is I don't know that they're doing it.
Is it really so good? How can we change a behavior that needs to be changed if people won't address the issue with us directly?
Lou
oh, and that's definitely a good thing isn't it? it's better if they talk behind your back and when you're around they act like nothing's wrong so you don't know it, than if they tell you what they really think. because then if they do, then you'd probably be asked to do something about it, and that's something you don't want to happen...
I think a lot of people are more afraid of hurting ones feelings so it's easier to not say anything at all and keep peace and don't rock the boat
Shea, you have valid points, however, how dare you attack someone in that way.
One thing I hate is that my parents limit the amount of sweets I can eat. Now I don't think that's right since I'm an adult, but I can't eat as much sweets as I want!
They're worried about your health. Did you ever consider the fact that they care about you? good God!
Katie i would have to agree with your parents on that partly because if you have diabities in your family and you are over weight it increases the risk and also because if you have a history of heart disease in your family being overweight increases the risk for that to.
You did say you had a craving for water, and I along with someone else who actually has diabetes, told you that was a cryptic sign that you neede to seek medical attention to see if you actually have that disorder. eating lots of sweets now, as well as knowing your family's history of this disease, if there is one, will make things worse for you in the long run if you don't start taking better care of yourself. I have a friend whose father hasn't brushed his teeth properly in at least twenty years, and now his teeth are black, much worse than the nasty green color they were over a year ago. imagine a dentist having to extract your teeth in future because you didn't take care of them now. He also has diabetes, eats foods high in sugar, and might lose his right leg below the knee if he doesn't watch it. I'd hate to see you go down that same destructive path. getting the proper amount of exercise along with a balanced diet will help you stay active and live much longer.
NO MORE EXCUSES!
Ahh, but if all those things happened, somehow it would be someone else's fault. Katie seems to be unable to take responsibility for anything; she chooses to point fingers and complain, but take no action to change her circumstance. I'm not sure why there are so many boards dedicated to the tramatic life of Katie. I do not mind giving encouragement and tips for success to anyone, but over and over and over and over again she tells us of her troubles, but no where, is there any evidence that she's even sort of considering any of the advice given. Advice doesn't have to be followed. Most people will consider the advice and figure out what applies to their situation and then run with it. However, Katie doesn't want to change anything, she just wants everyone to flock around her board posts with comments. This is her definition of a social life on the computer perhaps. I see it as highly unhealthy and if she'd put into practice any of the ideas expressed in this and her many other boards, I think she might be blessed with the opportunity to have a normal, healthy life in all areas, socially, physically, emotionally, educationally, vocationally, etc. Quit harping on the problems and start doing something about them. And as we have told you again and again and again, if you can't do that by yourself, seek professional help. I am thinking that there is more than just a visual impairment involved here. If that is the case, perhaps the other disability honestly interferes with her ability to function as an adult independently; a cognitive/judgement disorder that requires that her parents continue to treat her like a child. I do not know for sure, but ... well, likely more than enough said.
And, I am sorry that the original posters needs sort of got blown off to deal with the Katie crisis again--but that seems to be a common theme in other boards as well.
lol i gotta say i love shae, she's so straight up lol
and to last poster, yeah it does always end up going back to katie
anyways family, does suck sometimes as juniper says, specially step parents who tell you your ruining there relationship with your real parent...
Of course family sucks but nobody can do a fuckin' thing about it.
My sister wanted me to print out some directions from map quest. So I log in and we find that my monitor isn't working! My grandmother got pissed off and told me if this computer has one more problem she'll get rid of it! If you ask me I think she didn't want the computer brought in to the house in the first place!
Katie, my mum's exactly the same as your parents. She is for ever, trying to control the vast amounts of chocolate, sweets, crisps, cakes, biscuits Etc which I try and consume every week, just to keep my stress levels both managable and low lmfao and we also have a history of heart defects and diabetes in our family, but you really will have to stand up to your folks like you've never stood up to them before if you want to win this one. I only win, because every time anyone in my family gives me chocolate for my Birthday or Christmas or for example, the easter eggs I got from mum yesterday and the rest of the family today, I have some safe places for those in my room and once I dispose of them, well, the boxes and wrappers and things all go in the outside bin so mum can't see I've finished them. If she stops buying them however, I'll take matters in my own hands and start doing my own supermarket shops every week. It's a silent battle, but a very worthwhile battle, put it that way, lmfao. Mum knmows all too well she's losing her grip as far as food wars're concerned now, so she's slowly resigning herself to the fact I have an incurably sweet tooth that just will not go away as I get older like she hoped it would.
Jen.
Well, as far as parents go, you will be battling them until you (or they) die.